I really hope that you, your wife, and your new found lovin companion find and recieve the help the that baby of yours deserves. I think it’s wonderful what you have done. =] Although this post breaks my heart, because I wish I were able to help. It makes me smile to see such kind hearted people. This is one of the many reasons why I love this site. Also, if you would like I could look up some information on rescues that may help. Good luck!